INTRODUCTION:
The prevalence of male violence
against women needs to be acknowledged. Abuse can take many forms,
including physical, emotional, sexual, psychological and economic. Any
form of abuse can be devastating to a woman and can serve to erode her
self-esteem and self-confidence. Abuse affects women of all cultures,
ages, educational levels, socioeconomic backgrounds and sexual
orientation.
It has been apparent for centuries that, when women
find adversity in their lives, they turn to the wisdom and support of
other women. Together, the collective circles of women have created
profound change in both the internal world of ourselves and the external
world of our communities.
Being a victim of domestic violence
myself, I thought that if I shared my story with women, I may be able to
help them; encourage them to understand that they are not alone, they are
not responsible for their partner's behaviour, and violence is never okay
or justifiable.
My story is true, verbally explicit at times;
emotional; somewhat shocking; very detailed. I am just your average
citizen; a self-supporting mother of one who did not ask to be abused. My
ex-husband possesses some pretty bizarre behaviour to say the least. **For
a very disturbing true account of this mans behaviour see my 'Master of
Abuse' page**
I was not responsible for the emotional, mental, and
psychological cruelty that my ex-husband subjected me to on a daily basis.
Also, I did not deserve to be physically assaulted.
Most of all, I
did not deserve to have our local police force turn their back on me
because the responding officer to my 911 call is a friend of my assailant,
who walks free. The only law of "to serve & protect" that applied here
was the one between that officer and my attacker. Both of these men are
cowards and neither one of them have anything to be proud of.
The
women in my group tell me similar horror stories of how their abusive
partner's have
'walked away', or are getting away with bending the
rules of the court re child support, spousal support, supervised
visitation. These guys are using the children to get to the wife; the
children are crying, saying they don't want to go to Daddy's house but the
court says if Mommy doesn't send them, Mommy is in violation of the court
order, yet Daddy is consistently allowed to violate his part of the order.
Some women have lawyers who are obviously 'a man's lawyer' as they are
bilking the women for huge dollars, that they basically don't even have,
and are showing no accomplishment in favor of the women; the men are
walking around not paying support and not abiding by 'the rules.' Houses
are being sold out from under the women's feet, the women & children
have nowhere to go because the rents in this city are so high, the men are
working, have new homes they've moved into (usually with another woman)
and show no concern for the fact that their children are losing the roof
over their heads. It's sickening. I don't know if it's this
hick-hillbilly-GM town or if it's the age old myth that "it's a man's
world." Guess what, it's no longer a myth; it's a fact, and we have the
law to thank for that.
No man is worth this!!!
Any man who makes you cry is NOT worth your tears.
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